Long before I was married my parents and I were having
dinner in a cafe in Geneva. Across the room from us was a young couple. The
husband had pushed his chair back from the table and held a newspaper opened in
his lap. The woman with him gazed around the small room at the other diners. My
mother leaned over to me and said, "They're married."
I supposed then she was commenting on how married people
stop having a lot to say to each other over meals though they continue to love
and support each other. But as I look back on that scene, still vivid, I wonder
if the woman at the other table was a writer or an artist, someone who
collected images for her artwork.
The advent of the cell phone and the consequent change in
manners that allow people to stare at their phones while ignoring the person or
persons sitting opposite them at a dining table has been a god-send for artists
and writers, at least for this writer. Until recently it was considered rude to
stare at strangers. It may still be considered rude, but the strangers don't
know I'm staring at them because they're staring at their phones.
At a recent lunch in the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston, my
husband contemplated his meal and his cell and I contemplated the other diners.
Sometimes I go through the day collecting images of one item or another--rust
spots on cards, trash blowing in a street, dog leashes, and the like. This time
I collected images of men carrying trays. There are numerous ways to carry a
tray--one-handed at an angle; two-handed at waist level; with arms extended and
the tray at mid chest; two handed along the long side; two-handed almost at
chin level, with the chin thrust forward; and tray held tight against the waist
with the shoulders forward.
Equally interesting, to me, were three young women friends
eating together. They might have been related because they had similar bone
structures but I was caught by their hair. Some writers leave out physical
description, or describe their characters in such similar, vague terms that no
character is distinct from another. But these three women belonged in a story
together. One had long, light brown wavy hair; the next had curly darker hair a
little shorter; and the third had almost black hair with tight curls lying flat
to her head. I could study each one because all three were staring at their
cells.
Near me sat two women of a certain age with similar reddish
hair but very different bone structures. One wore a great deal of makeup and
the other wore none, and both women were doting on a little girl who must have
been someone's granddaughter. A third woman, apparently the girl's mother, also
had reddish hair but looked nothing like the other three. They all had cells.
Instead of bemoaning the creeping tendency of technology to
disrupt personal interaction, I welcome cell phones in restaurants and other
places for liberating me to stare at people to gather what I need for my
characters and stories. I no longer have to stare surreptitiously, apologize,
or pretend I didn't realize what I was doing. And on top of all that, I can
write it down and no one notices.